No Fun

In a previous post I wrote something about how there are times when having fun isn't always the better option. That got me thinking that there are things that are simply not fun at all. At least I can't turn them into something fun no matter how hard I try. I know for a lot of people that's being stuck in traffic, which is something I've mastered. But for me the following situations are highly challenging to my fun levels:

1. Getting my hair cut. I know that sounds strange. Most people (especially women) relish getting their look updated. But I almost always leave a salon wondering if I'm actually that ugly in real life. I don't know if it's the lighting. Or the mirrors. I was telling a friend about this the other day and she was hysterically laughing at me like I was a comedian. But people I am not joking. Somehow the stylists manage to look good under the same conditions. I actually have to go home and stare at myself in a mirror that makes me look good in order to convince myself that I am indeed a beautiful woman. This explains why I only get a couple haircuts a year.

2. The dentist. Painful. And they're usually mean or at the very least highly unsocial. Not much else I have to say about that. Still better than a haircut.

3. Giving bad news. I suck at it. I'm also not highly skilled in confrontations but am working on speaking up for myself so maybe I'll be having fun with it soon.

4. Breaking up. That goes with the above. Luckily I haven't had to be a part of that in a long time (ending things after a few dates does not count) and hopefully never again. Ugh!

5. Funerals. That's probably a big duh but I needed something else for my list since it isn't as long as I anticipated it being. I s'pose that's good, though since that means I'm having fun doing most other things.



What are some situations that challenge your fun?

Girls Just Want to Have Fun

But not always. Sometimes even I don't feel like having fun. I'm just not in the mood. I have a headache. I'm bloated. I sound like I'm talking about sex here, which technically is a fun activity for a lot of people so I could be. While I'm adament that we should stockpile as much fun as we can into our lives so we can die with smiles on our faces (I'm going to blame the morbidity on June gloom trying to move in on July too) I also know that there are times and places where fun is not always the best option. Funerals is one that readily comes to mind. Although I would like a fun funeral... mixed in with some tears just so I know I'm missed... but mostly fun, bright colors, a keg, dancing, some Twister... okay, again the morbidity. Don't worry, I don't plan on dying anytime in the near future (AKA next 80 or so years) so you have plenty more of this blog to read! The point is that at those times and/or in those places where fun feels out of place don't have it. In most spirituality practices there's emphasis on strife contributing to spiritual growth and while I believe that the right path leading to that should mostly be followed with ease and joy and love (and of course, fun) we often need the contrast of the bumps and roadblocks to appreciate our course or lead us down a different path. And it's only when we stop to contemplate those bumps and roadblocks (which is not often the most fun process) that we feel more fulfilled and confident about our path. Okay, I wasn't intending to give a sermon. It's just one of those days of bumps and roadblocks and the need for a little more warmth and sunshine. So I encourage you all to embrace all life has to offer, the fun and the not so fun and you'll quickly find yourself leading a much more fulfilling life. Happy Friday!